Okay, I have to begin by admitting I’m guilty.
Before I take a picture of my kids, I try to find an angle where there’s no stuff laying around, no piles on the counter, no laundry in the background.
When I get ready to post on Instagram, I often take a second to marvel at what I would look like if my skin actually got tan. And it looks so much better than the Casper or lobster looks that are my reality, I sometimes choose that filter.
But what are we doing?
When we click on the fox face filter and it smooths our skin, enlarges our eyes and lifts our cheekbones we know it’s not reality, but it’s cute and it’s fun.
What about when it’s our daughters with rosy pink cheeks? Our sons with no dark circles under their eyes? Our babies with lush, dark eyelashes? (Again, full honesty here. I’m totally guilty of saving a pic of my girl st ten months, sporting the cat filter. So. Completely. Adorable.)
But what are we doing?
In a society when we throw a fit after finding out a celebrities photographs are Photoshopped. In a society where we have people of all sizes struggling with body image and, sometimes, fighting eating disorders. In a society where so many of us battle anxiety and/or depression.
What are we doing?
I’m not sure that people need to see all of the details of my daily reality, yet when social media becomes the “magazine pages” of everyone’s lives I think it becomes too easy to feel dissatisfied. Whether it’s disappointment that my house looks nothing like the Pins I save, sadness that the mirror shows crinkles and wrinkles that cat filters hide away or shock that bodies we see walking down the street look so different from the posed profile pics we see – I think we let what we see shape our expectations. We forget that we are loved just as we are and we are enough.
I want to feel that I’m doing well when I act kindly, show mercy and follow the life God set me on – even when that means my floor is covered with laundry and my gray hairs are showing (assuming I actually had these, right????). I want my children to know they are beautiful creations – even when they have food stuck in their teeth and marker streaks up their nose (real life, people – this happened today).
Honestly, I completely fail at this most days (most minutes?). But I want to get better. I want to focus on things that really matter. So, today I’ll start by posting some reality…even when I want to angle the camera away or try to make things a neater mess. I’ll swallow those feelings, push down insecurities and try to just be who I am. Every unfiltered piece of me.